Canadian Coalition Against the Death Penalty

For many years I have heard people blaming others for their problems or for being in prison etc.Yes even I blamed others.It is easier to blame someone else for all the problems we have,troubles we get into,rather than take responsibility for out own acts and problems.

Yes there are those who have hurt you in some ways but it is wrong for you to do something to another over what was done to you.Some people can overcome the pain of what was done to them and do good! Then there are those who use the pain caused to them to strike out(do different crimes,some are very sick ones)and don't feel guilty or sorry inside for what they have done,but still blame others when they are caught.These people make it hard on all abused hurt people.

There are those who strike out at others,some are innocent people and others are guilty of causing pain to the person.These need help but can't accept that they need help.They blame those who hurt them and do the same things,and sometimes even worse things to others. There are people who do accept responsibility for their actions,but who condemn those who cannot do the same.They say things like "most people who are abused and hurt don't abuse others or do crimes.I was abused,hurt and I don't do crimes".They say that blaming others,or drugs,is only an excuse.Yes,many people do and can accept responsibility for their lives.

1)An abused child grows up full of shame,guilt etc.; no one believes what he is saying. Such people strike out for different reasons:one is asking for help in a very sick way,another is doing to others what was done to him or her because no one cares.

2)A woman is raped;she withdraws into herself or turns totally against men and becomes what some call an old maid,or a lesbian or a 100% man-hater,and hurts men and maybe kills too.

3)A person is full of guilt over the death of a spouse,child,parent,friend, and strikes out against those who did the crime or people who look like the attacker,and never accepts the responsibility for his/her actions.

There are others again who cannot accept responsibility for what they did - they blame others for their actions and deeds.They need help in their minds and souls.But it is easier to say:"it's your fault".All this blaming others is an excuse not a reason for the crime.The truth is that many people created the person who did the crime - parents,teachers,doctors,bullies,religious people who turn their backs. In prison a person can change for good or evil - it comes down to how a person handles his inner problems.I have seen good men change into heartless persons because of how they were treated by staff,officers and other inmates,and because they never got the mental and religious help they truly wanted and needed!

But all can be helped,so that each person can accept responsibility for their own life and so that they can become the good person they were made to be!